066: Preparing for a Change | Interview with Eric Roberge [Podcast]

Are you preparing for a change? A change in career? Perhaps even an entrepreneurial venture? Are you preparing to make the change successfully? Do you even know how to prepare? Today we talk to Eric Roberge with Beyond Your Hammock. Eric focuses on helping people create new possibilities by showing them how to prepare before they make the leap. And, his specialty is working with professional entrepreneurs. Today, Eric shares with us three things you need to do to prepare before you make the change.

 

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Three Things to Do When Preparing for a Change (Especially if you are starting a new venture!)

When you are planning to make a change in career, that means you are impacting your stream of cash. So today, we talk to Eric about three key things to think about as you are planning to make your move.

1. Know why you are making the move.

Do not just run from something, but define what you are running to. What do you want? Freedom? Money? What is the reason you want to move to a new position.

2. Focus on what you can control.

With the uncertainty of a new venture or a big change, you must focus on those things you can control. Get clear on those things and make wise decisions in those areas.

3. Have a plan B and a plan C. Things do not always work out, and they NEVER work out exactly like you planned. So, make sure you have alternatives if things go south.


Learn more about Eric and Beyond the Hammock

Eric Roberge is a Certified Financial Planner™ (CFP®) on a mission to transform the way personal financial advice is delivered in this country. As a personal finance blogger for the Huffington Post and CNN Money, he focuses on the challenges faced by professionals in their 20s and 30s, helping them to create new possibilities, leverage technology and automate the wealth creation process.

www.beyondyourhammock.com

 

How to Find Out What You are Running To!

Not sure what kind of a change to make? Learn how to find your calling so you can get a start on the new plan.  

 

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065: How to Get a Book Published | Interview with Chad Allen [Podcast]

If the first American dream is home ownership, the second is getting a book published. When someone learns that I have published a book, they immediately begin to tell me about their book. Some are just ideas. Others are books actually in the works, or even finished. But for all, they ask me how to get a book published. Although I have published a few books,  I am no expert. Today I introduce you to Chad Allen, an expert, someone who has published hundreds of books and has 15 years of experience in the book publishing business.

 

How to Get a Book Published

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I Asked (and Chad answered) How To Get a Book Published

  • What does a book publisher do?
  • How do I find a book publisher for my book?
  • How do I get a book publisher to take me seriously?
  • How big does my Platform have to be to be taken seriously?
  • What is a book proposal and why do I need one?

And other things we learn from Chad in this interview.

  • How a publisher evaluates an author or book idea.
  • What is required to get your book into a bookstore.
  • How a book proposal is like your business plan. You need it before you start the book.

What Chad Allen and Book Proposal Academy want to do for you

  • Chad’s mission is to help you find your voice and do your art. You can see this spirit in his blog at Chad R. Allen.
  • Check out the FREE videos where Chad teaches you about book proposals at Book Proposal Academy.

Invest in Yourself

If you have ever considered writing a book, seriously check out the free videos at  Book Proposal Academy and consider taking part in the coaching. Do you want to keep telling others you are thinking about writing a book, or would you rather call yourself a published author? Make an investment in yourself and make it happen. Learn from an expert!

 

Question: What kind of book are you thinking about writing? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

No idea what you might write about? Check out “How to Find Your Calling” which will give you clues and a head start as you begin working with Chad.

  

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064: 4 Common Mistakes made in the Informational Interview [Podcast]

Most people go after a new job the way we have always done it. They find an advertised opening, send a resume, and wait. They might also throw in a few job fairs. The end result is that they end up talking to HR, if anyone at all. This is a entirely frustrating and even humiliating experience for most of us. But, some have found ways to pierce behind the veil of job ads and HR using tools such as informational interviews. (I have been known to also call these reverse interviews). But the problem is, most people show signs of desperation in their attempt at an informational interview, and basically get pushed back into the HR pile.

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What is an Informational Interview?

In the purest sense, an informational interview is not really an interview at all. Instead, it is a learning experience. I would call them strategic networking instead. The goal is to learn about an industry, company, or person so that you can discern a few key things:

  • Does this industry or company seem like a good fit for me?
  • What skills might I need to acquire?
  • What are the big issues in this industry? This company?
  • What is the future of this industry? This company?
  • Who else should I be networking with in this industry or company?
As you can tell from this list, it has nothing to do with a job. Instead, you are trying to learn something. Most often informational interviews are used when people want to break into something new, are in a new city, or want to learn how to expand their view of their own industry.
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How to Request an Informational Interview

To request an informational interview, you need to do these steps:

  • What is it that seems interesting to me? What industry, company, or career field? If you do not know the how of this, go through the exercise How to Find Your Calling below.
  • Who is doing it now and doing it successfully?
  • Who do I know that knows them?

Once you know the person, request a meeting with them either in person or over the phone so that you can ask them some questions. Even though I am calling this an informational interview, I would NEVER use those words when requesting a meeting. Instead, tell them you are trying to learn about the industry or the company and would like to get their perspective.

I will cover in detail how to ask for such meetings and even what to do in the meeting in my online course Networking for Introverts.

 

4 Common Mistakes People Make in an Informational Interview Request

I have advised thousands to connect with people and find opportunities with informational interviews or strategic networking. Yet, over and over I see blunders made. Most of these are made because the one requesting an interview cannot get their head out of doing things the same way they have always done them. They want to reach out and get a job interview. That is one of the reasons I hate the term informational interview – but that is what people call it.

To make it clear, here is an email that represents the typical WRONG approach.

Hi John,

Sam Smith suggested I contact you  for an informational interview. I’m very interested in working in your industry and for your company in particular. I would like to get a few minutes of your time to ask you some questions. I’ve attached my resume so you can learn about my background. Thanks for your time and your help. I have been out of work for about 3 months now and really need to make some things happen. Looking forward to hearing back.

Jeff

Do you see any mistakes in that email? If not, look below for the common blunders then come back to the email.

1. You look and talk like you are looking for a job

The email above is way too typical. Starts out well but then I can begin to smell desperation. This person is clearly not looking for perspective, but instead sound like they will be ready to start working on Monday.

Other signs that you are looking for a job are your dress and your mannerisms. You come in dressed as if you are in an interview and you act as if you are in an interview. Sure, you need to dress appropriately, but do not overdo it as you might for an actual interview.

2. You are talking to Human Resources (HR)

Another fatal mistake people make is talking to HR. You will often be directed to HR when you smell like you are looking for a job. So avoid at all cost talking to HR unless you want to work in HR. They cannot help you!

If you hit a company gatekeeper when trying to get to the person you want to meet with and they try to send you to HR, remind them you are not looking for a job but want to learn something from the person you are trying to reach. I did this one time and the secretary was going to send me to HR. I told her that I was not looking for a job, but was looking for the perspective from an engineer in our industry who was managing a large R&D outfit. Clearly the only person that fit that bill was the vice president of engineering at her firm. I got the time to meet with him.

3. Send or bring a resume

Never, never, never bring your resume or send it in the email before or after the meeting. They do not need your resume anyway because you are there to learn about them and their company or industry, not to talk about you. If anything on your resume needs to be discussed, they do not need the resume, they have you.

4. You talk about yourself

The purpose of this meeting is to learn. Not to sell yourself. Not to give your life history. Not to tell your sob stories (like in the email above). The purpose is for you to ask questions and learn. So if you are talking about yourself and your experience too much, then you blew it.

 

The main issue going in, is that people think of this as an interview. It is not! It is you trying to learn from others. Can it open doors? Yes. Can it lead to a job offer or an actual interview? Yes. But this meeting should not be stressful or about you being on your A-game. Get your head around that and it will help you be relaxed and remove any sense of desperation.

Question: Have you ever done an informational interview? What happened? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

How to Find Your Calling

 

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063: How Introverts Can be the Best Networkers [Podcast]

I have been doing a lot of work on my new course Networking for Introverts (soon to release) lately. As I explore and search, I see a lot of common misconceptions that the extroverts of the world are better at networking and making personal connections. Wrong. In my experience, introverts can be the best networkers, with a little preparation. Introverts have an easier time learning to focus on other people and therefore make better connections. So if you are an introvert, take heart. Here I share some reasons (encouragement) why you are already a better networker than the extroverts of the world and some thoughts about how to get even better.

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How Introverts Can be the Best Networkers

1. Introverts are better listeners. Rather than doing all the talking, an introvert will more likely be ready to listen. It is not a given, but with some practice of asking the right question, introverts are happy to listen and let the others lead, and therefore form better networks. When you learn to ask questions and listen, others like you. Dale Carnegie taught this is his classic book How to Win Friends & Influence People.

Related: Five Networking Secrets I Learned from My Dad

 

2. Introverts understand other introverts. I am guessing that introverts are about half the population. But, in certain circles introverts abound. Think about a group of CPAs, engineers, or financial analysts. Extroverts in these crowds are rare. So as an introvert, you are most likely in these crowds and there are more people around like you than like extroverts. You understand how other introverts feel and therefore can relate better to them.

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3. Introverts will be more prepared. The nervousness of a networking event coupled with your need to be there (otherwise you would skip it)  will force most introverts to have a reason to be there. They will think through the goal: who they would like to meet, and what they would like to get out of it. Being prepared is much better than walking in and seeing what happens. With a preparation and goal in mind, your networking will be more profitable.

Related: Networking for Introverts

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062: Five Networking Secrets I Learned from My Dad [Podcast]

Have you ever learned a lesson only to realize someone else was modeling that same truth for you for years and you never saw it? Maybe it is just me – the slow learner. My lesson is about networking and connecting. We have all heard the networking secrets. First we have: it is not about what you know, it is about who you know. I bought into that and tried to know the right people, which was frustrating at best and phony at worst. Second we have: it is not about who you know, it is about who knows you. This one felt so true that I have repeated it often. But the real truth is that both of these are wrong. Networking is not about you at all. No one wants to know what you know or really cares that much for knowing you. But, what does matter is the simplest secret and was modeled to me by my own father for all my life.

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Five Networking Secrets

After years of trying to sale myself and finding myself in awkward situations where I was trying to push an agenda, my own agenda, with people who could care less, I began to discover what did work. But now I realize where I learned it.

My parents were always the center of attention at family get togethers, even with extended family. But especially my dad seemed to be the one people sought out for advice. Why?

1. Focus on Other People

When my dad would be with me or my four other siblings, he would always ask about us. It was not till I was about 30 years old that I realized that we rarely ask about him or what he is doing. But as I watched, he did the same thing with other people also. He would ask about them and pay attention to what they were doing and what they cared about.

Related: 5 Tips Guaranteed to Help You in Overcoming Your Fear of Networking

2. Seek Out The Quiet

You could always count on my dad seeking out that wallflower in the room. Even in group settings where we did not know a lot of people, he tended to make contact with those and ask them questions.

3. Be Full of Questions

Always asking. How was your trip? How is your home bath renovation going? How is the new dog? Asking people questions about what they care about and what they are involved in gives them reason to talk and share.

4. Care About the Story

Too many times I have been with family hearing a story that I did not care to hear (drama) and I would find a way to walk away only to later realize my dad had not walked away, but was listening to every detail. He cared about what was on their mind – even the drama. He somehow rose above the drama and listened out of a heart of caring.

5. Be Short on Advice

While I know dad has tons of advice to give, I find he is rarely quick to give it. In fact, at times I feel you have to beat it out of him. But I now realize that most of us want to talk, and few of us want advice, especially when we have not asked for it.

Networking: It is Not About You

Wherever I go with my dad, I find those who know him immediately seek him out. They know he will listen and is a trusted friend. So, for all my expertise in networking and all the statements about networking success, I have come to realize that networking is not about me at all. Networking is about paying attention to, caring for, and serving others. Thanks Dad.

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061: 5 Tips Guaranteed to Help You in Overcoming Your Fear of Networking [Podcast]

Do you have a fear of networking? When I was in college and looking for a job, I was told networking was the key to success. So, I put on a suit and tie and headed off to a local networking event. Fear set in. On the way to the event I could hardly grip the wheel of the car from nerves and sweating hands. I was having trouble breathing – even forgetting to breath. But I made it to the event, only to find myself frozen in fear standing at the drink table right inside the door. My feet would not move any further. Fortunately, someone else was standing there. He and I connected and spoke for a few minutes. Then I realized that he too was looking for a job and struck by fear did not move either.

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The fear I experienced might have been extreme for some of you, I know others can totally relate. I hear you saying “me too” as I write this. This fear of networking controlled me for years. Yet,  today I have learned how to network with great skill. Do I love networking? No. Can I do it without fear? Yes. Let me share some tips to help you overcome the fear of networking.

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5 Tips Guaranteed to Help You in Overcoming Your Fear of Networking

    1. Prepare Mentally for the Networking Event
      Take a deep breath and forget the fear for a minute. Now think about this and write down your answers.
      • What is the purpose of the event?
      • What is YOUR purpose of going ?
      • What do you hope to accomplish?
      • Who will be there?
      • Who will be there that you would like to meet?
      • Who will be there that hates it just as much as you do?
    2. Show Up Ready to Network without Fear
      • Get business cards ready.
      • Take something to make notes. (I use Nozbe on my cell phone for promises I have made.)
      • What is the dress of the event?
    3. Get to Know the People
      Now knowing some things, think about the people you have listed at the event.
      • Who are the key people and leaders?
      • What do those leaders care about?
      • Again consider YOUR purpose of going?
      • Pre-connect with the main people using an email telling them you are looking forward to meeting them there. (Either a person you have never met or you admire.)
    4. Be in Control at the Event
      • Find those people you pre-connected with quickly, Since they are the leaders, they will help you connect.
      • Play the host. Talk to people who seem nervous and help them connect.
      • When others come to talk to you, be the one to make introductions.
      • Keep the cards in your pocket unless there is a definite connection you want to follow up with.
      • If you make a promise, write it down. (I use Nozbe on my cell phone for promises I have made.)
      • Watch the alcohol. (Best not to drink at all.)
    5. Decompress and Followup After the Event
      • The after event activity is very important because it helps prepare your mind for the next event and helps you become better connected so next time people will know you better.
      • Breath and be happy you did it.
      • Followup immediately with those you connected with. (Use Linkedin or just email)
      • Followup on any promises immediatly.

Bonus Tricks for Overcoming Your Fear of Networking

  • Just do it over an over.
  • Look for something periodically where you can practice: weekly or monthly.
  • Remember, they are just people. Do not let them intimidate you.
  • Connect to people in line at the grocery store and other non-threatening places for practice. 
 
Keep it up. It does not take very long before you walk into a room and cannot get past the food table because others seek you out to talk to you. Soon, you will be looking for an escape for reasons other than fear. You will be leaving because you have talked too much and need a break.
 

Question: Have you overcome your fear of networking? How? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

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060: Five Takeaways from Boost Leadership Conference [Podcast]

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Last week I went to Dallas to assist Michael Nichols with the Boost Leadership Conference. It was a great time to connect with him and others (most who are part of my mastermind group), but in the conference I learned a few things about leadership and relationships. I thought I would share some of my take-aways with you.

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Five Things I Took Away from Boost Leadership Conference

  1. Leaders Connect and Collaborate with Others
  2. Leaders Intentionally Grow Their Capacity
  3. Leaders Make a Plan and Act
  4.  Leaders Have a Plan for Their Personal Lives (a personal plan or life plan)
  5. Step Out and Offer to Help Others
     

Question: Have you ever stepped out to give and found you got more than you gave?  You can leave a comment by clicking here.

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059: Five Ways to Deal with Office Politics [Podcast]

Office politics creates more personal frustration than work and work schedules will ever create. Today I will share five ways to deal with office politics – five practical things you can do not matter how nasty the situation. While I doubt there are any big secrets here, I have found the only way to relieve the personal stress is to take action. Immediate and decision action. So, here are five actions I would suggest you take to deal with your office politics.

 

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Five Ways to Deal with Office Politics

  1. Confront the facts and find the truth.
    Get past the gossip and opinions and go straight to the source.
  2. Connect to the influencers.
    Do not waste your time convincing people who do not speak or are not heard. Instead, challenge the influencers on the issues.
  3. Do not get personal.
    Attacks on the person rather than the issue will only make things worse. Stick to the facts. If they attack you personally, rise above it. Focus on what they are doing and possibly why. Do not make the person out to be evil. Usually it is not true.
  4. Seek the higher ground and a win-win solution.
    We all know the saying “Where there is smoke, there is fire.”  So if upheaval begins, there is a reason. But sometimes the real reason is not obvious. Get to the core of the “why” and work with others to solve the real problem. Is it a power play? What does the person seeking power REALLY want? Often times they have not thought it though.
  5. Find the problem behind the issue and a new career.
    If you dig to the bottom of the problem, you often find an unanswered need. If that need is a business need and you can solve it, you just might have a new career.  

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